The greatest hindrance to experiencing pleasure is anxiety. By this, I mean anxiety in all its guises, from unresolved trauma to irrational fear to physical injury to performance anxiety. There is a vicious cycle of anxiety that affects all people. It stems from our societal and cultural expectations and values, continues into our own perceptions and decisions, manifests in our actions and in our bodies, and affects our relationships with ourselves as well as the people around us. Unsurprisingly, we find ourselves in a constant state of anxiety, reinforced in all areas of our lives.
I recently shared quite a big part of my personal history on social media. I disclosed that I have suffered from premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, have been sexually assaulted and have been bullied for being falsely perceived as homosexual. I shared this not looking for sympathy but to embrace a side of me that I hadn’t been fully appreciative of; my vulnerability.
People love social media and, with more than one-third of American marriages now beginning on-line, it is understandable that this technology is impacting relationships. As a member of the millennial generation, the demographic most commonly using social media, it is my lived experience and my observations that have informed my understanding of this particular topic and allow me to draw some conclusions about the detriments and benefits of social media's impact on relationships.
Your libido is a forward-striving, motivational, often sexual drive which rules your conscious mind and demands separation from the clutches of parental nurturing. However, more often than not, a childish longing for the parent's protection prevents this by setting up a psychological resistance that manifests itself in all kinds of neurotic fears – that is to say, in a generalized anxiety of life.
To further explore the notion of Sacred Relating, I'd like to introduce one more idea that may either challenge or support what you already think about relationships. This is the third and final Sacred Relationship that we develop; relationships with other people.
Following my previous blog post about introducing you to a new set of ideas, I'd like to offer another concept that may challenge what you believe to be true or it may very well reaffirm your existing beliefs about the nature of our existence.
I'd like to introduce you to an idea that may sound unfamiliar or that may resonate with you, it may reaffirm what you already believe to be true or it may challenge some of your beliefs. Either way, I feel it is important to share. The idea I'd like to discuss is Sacred Relating, in this case, relating and subsequently creating a relationship with our own body.